Escort Etiquette: A quick guide to booking a successful appointment
Follow the rules and you should be on your way to an amazing experience
Escort Etiquette – how to book an appointment with a companion
Tips & Advice on what to keep in mind when booking a meeting with an escort
Many men (and some couples and women), will at some point in their lives want to visit an escort. This is particularly true of businessmen and people who travel a lot, because companionship (and sex) are valuable commodities, and no one likes being lonely.
This post is aimed at those people who are considering hiring an escort for the very first time, and aren’t sure what to do (and for people who have tried, and don’t know why they’ve been rejected). There are a few “etiquette rules” that must be followed to ensure a successful appointment, which I will detail below.
The list is in no way comprehensive, as each escort and each agency have a different set of rules and expectations. There are however some (nearly) universal guidelines that should always be followed, that many people seem to miss because their impression of escorts is based upon what they’ve seen in popular culture. If you took the time to find out what is expected of you, the client, then congratulations – You’re on your way to being the type of client those gorgeous women (and men) are happy to meet with.
Let’s start by looking at the escort’s primary concerns:
Protecting themselves from potentially abusive clients
Protecting themselves from the law
Staying in control of the situation
Concealing their identity
If you understand this, then you can understand the reasoning behind all the rules and regulations around booking appointments, payment, meetings, etc.
Whether booking through an individual or through an agency, your first contact will most likely be via e-mail, website form or phone.
Please make sure you read all the information of the site very carefully!
Check the preferred payment method – If the website says only credit cards accepted, then that is what’s accepted
Check what methods are not accepted – If the website says no cash payment, don’t ask if you can pay in cash at the end of the appointment. You won’t get one.
Check if they do in calls or out calls – If the escort you’re interested in only does out calls to pre-determined hotels, don’t ask her/him to come to your house
Check the rates – Don’t negotiate. This is a big red flag; if you cannot respect the escorts rates and time, you will not be trusted to respect the escort
Check the services provided – Don’t even think about negotiating this!
Check the preference for contact – If the website says call only after 7 pm, or that first contact is only by e-mail, follow those directions. You’re not going to get special treatment and be exempt from the rules.
After you’ve checked all the websites information, it’s time to make the first contact, via the escort/agencies preferred method. If there is any information that is not listed in their website or advert, during the first contact is when you need to ask it.
If you are calling by phone:
Don’t call drunk – Maybe you had a few drinks to work up the courage to call; doesn’t matter. If you’re slurring your words, you will not be given an appointment, because inebriated people are likely to violate the two primary concerns: Protection from potentially abusive clients, and staying in control of the situation. Call once you’ve sobered up.
Be respectful – You are not doing them a favor by calling; you wouldn’t be rude to your doctor when you make an appointment, don’t do it to your escort.
Don’t ask for services that are explicitly stated as being a ‘no’ – If you ask for bareback when the advert says no bareback, you’re showing a severe lack of respect for that persons boundaries and they are not likely to give you the time of day.
Don’t ask for services that are blatantly illegal – This should go without saying. (If you are in a country where prostitution is illegal, do not ask for sexual services over the phone, particularly if the website states “Companionship only”) Follow the rules.
Don’t ask for naked pictures – Escorts and agencies get many calls from people who are not serious about booking appointments, but are looking for material for their ‘spank bank’. If you ask for naked pictures, you’re not going to be taken seriously, and you’re not going to get them. You can see photos of the escorts on their websites.
Don’t send naked pictures of yourself – They don’t need it! They’re not going to be so impressed by your penis that they’re going to give you an hour of their time for free!
Don’t haggle! – Don’t haggle over price, over locations, over services. These people don’t know you – they are on alert for anything that sets off warning bells, and a person that tries to overstep boundaries is a definite warning bell.
If you are contacting by sms/email:
Most of the rules for calling by phone apply when contacting by sms, but there is one additional big one:
Write your sms like a grown up! Use spelling and punctuation. It doesn’t have to be PHD Thesis quality – but it does have to look like a mature adult wrote it, and again, not whilst drunk. It is hard to take a request seriously from someone using text speak, so don’t do it. It’s only an extra few moments of your life – spend them wisely.
When booking an appointment:
Do not book an appointment for yourself, with the intention of having multiple people over. Just don’t do it, ever.
When you are requested for a phone number, give your fixed land line number – unless you absolutely can’t. But do try.
If the website does not cover it, politely asking about any first meeting policies will make you come across as a responsible, respectful individual.
Try not to ask questions that are already answered on the website, unless you need clarification on some matter.
If there are questions you do need answer, ask them now – not once the appointment has been made.
When meeting (especially for the first time):
DO NOT SHOW UP DRUNK
DO NOT SHOW UP UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ANY DRUGS
Do not show up late – It’s disrespectful
Do show up showered and groomed – This individual will have spent time and money getting ready, waxing, doing their make up, etc, in preparation for meeting you. Show them the same respect back.
Do follow any instructions for payment to the letter – if you were instructed to leave a white envelope with cash, unsealed, on the coffee table, do exactly that. Not following instructions will put her/him on edge, and could result either a cancellation or a less enjoyable experience for the both of you.
If you’ve offered your companion a drink and they decline, don’t take offense – they are keeping a clear and level head. They may choose to partake in future meetings once they are comfortable with you, or they may not.
If you were asked to have identification ready, don’t try to back out of it at the last moment, or negotiate “I’ll show you mine, if you show me yours” – you should have checked all the rules and found them acceptable before going ahead with your booking, and in most cases an escort will not show you her/his identification since protecting their identity is a primary concern.
If your companion offers services without condoms, but you would prefer to use one, feel free to tell her
If your companion does not offer services without condoms, don’t ask – This seems to be the biggest issuer that people don’t want to abide by, but remember, this is the escorts profession, and they are entitled to do anything within their power to keep themselves safe. They are also keeping you safe at the same time.
As you can see, most of these “instructions” are simply common sense. As long as you keep in mind that safety is the escort’s primary concern, you should have no problem complying with her requirements. If they feel safe, you will have a better experience. If you raise red flags, you won’t get to enjoy their company. If you are unsure of anything, ask first, don’t assume. Above all, conduct yourself in the same respectful manner as you would when dealing with any other professional service provider (though the experience should be a lot more fun with this particular service provider!)